usually the latter

[scarfman]

Watching last night's How I Met Your Mother rerun (in which Marshall confesses to Lily that he can't bring himself to have sex fantasies about other women unless, in the fantasies, he's been widowered), I expected qtrhorserider to ask me whether I have to kill her for my sex fantasies. She didn't. I guess she must remember our previous discussions on the topic; my sex fantasies are either set before we were married or are about fictional screen characters.