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[scarfman]

Over on lifeonmartha I saw a post complaining of the emnity of some fans, presumably Rose fans, for Martha and her independence; and replied:

Is this normal for shippy people?

It's normal for fans. Fandoms are for bringing people together. Many or most of us come to fandoms having found few or no other places where we felt we fit in, where we failed to be the oddballs and the outcasts. But many, many of us react to this by finding ways to treat others as the oddballs and outcasts - retaliating for the way we've been treated instead of embracing fandom as the place where it shouldn't happen at all.