Damn. What a hard thing to process. I can say this: every person I've known who faced this decision felt very much better -- physically and emotionally -- after shifting the focus over to palliative care. Many said they wished they'd done it sooner. I don't know any major decision that has a more unanimous endorsement.

As one of the culprits who stole your eyeglasses from a Chambanacon hotel room snog those many years ago, I knew you two would get on well together. Little did I know, that was a massive under-estimation. You're both magnificent. All my love from Chicago.